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10 Signs You’re In The Right Relationship

 
According to Familyshare, Crisis can come upon couples unexpectedly and rattle even the most solid of relationships. No matter how smitten you are with your honey, doubt may creep into your mind, clouding your vision of a perfect match. So how do you really know if this relationship is right for you? Here are a few ways to find out:

1. Moral support
When your friends and family want to see you and your partner together, there is something to savor. Sometimes outside perspective is needed to see things you are too close and emotionally invested in to appreciate or view clearly. Don’t base the value of your relationship on the opinion of others, but listen to the voices you love and respect.
2. Fair fights
When a fight does break out, it’s a clean one. Your arguments work toward resolving issues and solving problems while still appreciating each other’s feelings and needs.
3. New issues
Your issues are new issues. Past problems actually get worked out and don’t come back up to bite you. Old resentments don’t get brought up in new arguments, and old dirt doesn’t get thrown around in current conversations.
4. Hard work
You’re both willing to put in the work. You jump into action without skipping a beat, and you work on an issue until it’s over. No hesitations.
5. Growing together
You and your partner are evolving together emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Growing closer is easy and a natural course of your relationship.
6. Major change
You are both naturally changing for the better because you are happier being who you are this new way. Not because he asked you to change, and certainly not to keep him. Maybe you never wanted children, and now you can’t wait to be a parent with your partner. Or maybe he always needed his space, and now being away from you feels incomplete.
7. Life partners
You don’t see yourself or your life without him. And you know he feels the same way.
8. The L-word
“Love” rolls off the tongue effortlessly. You can’t imagine not saying it; that would hurt too much. You need to say it, you want to say it and it brings you joy. And it’s the same for him.
9. Spiritual connection
There’s just something cosmic that pulls you two back together when you drift apart. It’s unexplainable. But it’s there. And it’s always for the better for both of you.
10. Love is blind
You don’t see anyone else as a potential partner, and you’re not interested in building any kind of connection with another. No one comes close to the amazing person you have. Physical attraction may pop in and surprise you, but the desire for intimacy or emotional connection doesn’t develop.
Knowing when you are right where you should be can be difficult in the midst of it. Hindsight may be 20/20, and if you’re the type that doesn’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone, keep your eyes open and see what blessings you have in your love. Let this list encourage you to keep going and keep the faith when the road gets rough and blue skies go gray. You can build a beautiful home for yourself and your family when you appreciate everything and everyone in it.

What Are You Willing To Do For Love?

                                                                Love is weird, that’s something i ve pretty much already established. At any given moment we’re either blissfully in it, hating it, apprehensive of it, wanting it, worried about it, or resigning ourselves to forever alone status because we can’t deal with it anymore. And contrary to all this love advice that flies at us from every direction, it always seems like there’s no real “right” way to go about love, because one method doesn’t fit everyone and every relationship is different.
On the other hand, everyone has a threshold. A balance. A breaking point. A list of things they would or would not do for what they believe is or can be true love.
But figuring this out can be difficult, namely because in our culture we have two simultaneously dominant, completely opposite yet equally loud views on love: 1) love conquers all/is worth sacrificing for, and 2) if love inconveniences you in any way, don’t do it. Romantic comedies and eternal optimists will have it that we should “tough it out” in favor of true love, whereas the more rational-minded among us are wary of any emotional endeavor that makes us break too much of a sweat.
    So the question, I suppose, is this: what’s worth it? More importantly, who is worth it? What are you willing to give up and what are you willing to forgive? What makes you want to ignore a potential red flag, and what makes you take notice of it? What are you willing to put up with and what are you willing to change? How do you know you’re doing it for the right person? Do you think, given certain circumstances, you would ever prefer to settle?
What is the ultimate risk you’re willing to take? Tell me

9 Self-Destructive Things We All Do That DESTROY Happy Relationships

Making these mistakes is trapping you in a MISERABLE cycle.
Have you ever felt that lingering sense of dissatisfaction when it comes to your love life? Like love’s not as good as everyone says it is?

It’s a really common problem, and being unhappy with the way things are going in relationships often has a lot to do with some specific things people do that repel their own happiness.

Here are nine things you do that are happiness repellers — you’re guaranteed a happier relationship WITHOUT them:

1. Lose sight of what the relationship you really want.

Sometimes when we’re knee deep in things with another person, we don’t stop to think about how we want our life to really go. When you don’t know what you want, you have zero chance of getting something good. You’ll get whatever comes along, not what you’re specifically looking for.

2. Sacrifice your own happiness for someone else’s.

A good relationship has a lot of give and take. If you’re always the one giving, you have to step back and think about why. Do you want to give or is it a veiled attempt to “give to get”, hoping that someone else will meet your needs? Or is it because you’re afraid the whole thing will fall apart if you stop? Occasional sacrifice is fine and healthy, but perpetual sacrifice — or becoming the martyr in your relationship — is not.

3. Use past relationship failure and heartache as an excuse for not trying.

Look, I get that sometimes you need to give yourself the chance to lick your wounds after heartbreak. It’s normal. It’s just important that your time doesn’t get swallowed up by it. If you go all “fallen warrior of love”, you’re sabotaging your own happiness. Spend more time in the present instead of dwelling on past relationship failures.

4. Concentrate on all the things you don’t have.

If you go around complaining about what you lack, you’ll attract more dissatisfaction. If you can’t stop thinking about the better life you think you’d have with more things, bring yourself back to the present moment and consider how great things already are now. It’s hard to feel lack if you seriously cultivate gratitude — partnered up or not.

5. Let your inner critic take the wheel.

Our worst enemies DEFINITELY live inside our own heads. I have yet to meet someone who completely lacks an inner critic. The key is to let your critic have its say, neutralize it and move on in a healthy direction. When we act on the critic’s negative evaluation of every situation, that’s when we get into trouble.

6. Worry what other people think.

If your relationship is good and you’re happy with it, don’t compare it to other people. Just don’t. Don’t worry about what other people think about it either. Don’t keep up with the Joneses.

What looks perfect from the outside usually isn’t from the inside. Now, if someone has a legitimate reason to think your beloved is a real nasty person, take it seriously. But unless it’s serious, just let them see that you’re happy.

The same goes for perfectionism. Don’t make the person you’re with jump through hoops to do whatever you decide. Enjoy them. They’re comfortable and truly themselves around you when you let them.

7. Dwell on things beyond your control.

Let it go. Distract yourself if necessary. Focus on the things that you have direct control over like your own behavior, thoughts and feelings. That’s enough to worry about without you having to enact Draconian control over every area of your life. When we’re too focused on guiding another’s behavior, we often forget to examine our own.

8. Choose negative partners.

If you pick someone negative as your romantic partner, get ready to deal with a lot of negativity and change in that direction yourself. Maybe you’re an optimist now, but over time, you’ll feel unhappy as a result of their dissatisfaction — whether you started that way or not. Choose better. Sometimes it’s not a popular opinion, but I advocate ditching negative people at every turn. Turns out I have a nicer life, and I don’t miss the drama.

9. Hold grudges.

Staying angry about that thing they did or said six months ago is helping no one. Neither is bringing up something they did that you both already have talked about 600 times. When you hold a grudge, you adopt a victim mentality that doesn’t really serve you in any positive way.

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
― Gautama Buddha